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[quote=Anonymous]Bullying, IMO, requires adult intervention, but it has to be handled carefully to make things not get worse. IME, school counselors by and large lack nuance, and make things worse.

Short of extreme behavior, I am for allowing kids to work things out themselves. For instance, DD was good friends with 3 other girls in ES. In MS, she started making new friends, one of the other girls started making new friends, a third girl didn't, but liked that just fine, and a fourth wanted to make friends, but did not know how to go about it, and in the process alienated her existing 3 friends. It turned out that there was a whole another party in the middle meddling (feeding bad information to the girl, showing her photoshopped texts). Once that was figured out, the 2 of 3 girls patched up (the other is still hurt by everything that transpired), and while they're not as close as they used to be, they're on decent terms.

Even in the midst of it all, when the girl was telling her mom she wanted to switch schools, she did not want adults involved, because adult involvement makes things worse. Now everyone involved has a better sense of how things can go south quickly, and how people that are seemingly friends really are not. They're all a little bit wiser, although it was exhausting and quite emotional while all the drama was going on.[/quote]

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