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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd imagine it really depends on where and especially what your family is like. It would 100% draw rude comments from my extended family in rural North Carolina, but that's not a universal experience, and I'd expect more comments from my family than I would from strangers on the street.[/quote]

I'm sorry to hear that.

I haven't met a lot of these people before, so I have no idea their feelings about this and my husband isn't sure either. It's been years since they had one of these big reunions but there's talk about making it a more regular thing. Of course if people are mean we likely won't go back but this extended family reconnection has become very important to my husband's parents and aunts and uncles recently for a variety of reasons, so we're trying to go along with it.

I could say to DD, "hey, as you know, in some communities people are negatively biased and I don't want them to hurt your feelings or make judgements about you before they have a chance to get to know how awesome you are. Do you want to get some new shoes and pack neutral clothes for at least the first couple days?"

And let her decide. Does that make sense? Or would there be more serious concerns than a snide comment and I would be more direct?

Many days she'd likely respond well to the above and say "yeah that sucks that some people are ignorant jerks, I'll pack some shirts without words and get some shoes with you." 
And other days she might say "why do you hate me so much and try to run my life?" Or "no one else will care. Only you care so much what I look like." Or "I don't care what they think of me!" And then double down and draw rainbows and "pride" on her forehead.[/quote]

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