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[quote=Anonymous]Whenever I or my children get sick, my parents demand a detailed description of symptoms and treatment, as well as frequent updates. They always share advice and start debating with me if I am not doing exactly what they think is right. I've tried addressing it a million times, but it's always "But we love you so much", "This is your health, you could die", "But we're so worried, it's normal for parents to worry."

I've lately just stopped telling them when we're sick, though they sometimes notice. Recently I found a tick too late and ended up getting Lyme disease and there was no way to hide it.

At first, I told them I was too tired to talk and to please leave me alone with advice and interrogations. I reassured them that I caught it in time, most cases resolve with prompt antibiotic use, and that I was doing all the right things. I promised I would let them know if anything significant changed for better or worse.

That bought me a few days. Once I got better, I reached out to them with this positive update. This unleashed a stream of questions and advice. Did I remove the tick professionally? Did I have travel insurance and would this be a pre-existing condition? Am I taking probiotics? Did I know that kimchi is high in probiotics? Shouldn't I extend my antibiotics longer? Am I resting enough?

I kept asking them to stop and finally hung up.

Today, I wake up to an angry email from my dad calling me a bully, and a text from my mom that said, "Don't be mad, but I called your grandfather's infectious diseases doctor and he can see you virtually, can you just send him your records?"

I don't know what to say or do. I can't go NC, but calmly dealing with their BS is so, so difficult for me. [/quote]

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