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[quote=Anonymous]Good, bad, and ugly. I have been dating a guy and he treats me so well, miles better than I've ever been with. I feel like he could be the one, 5 months in.

The only problem is he has a three year old daughter. Previously I would have considered this a dealbreaker and wouldn't have even gone on a date with him to prevent what is happening now, but I wasn't initially super attracted to him and thought we would make good friends, maybe with benefits. I didn't think I'd get invested. I told him as much, and he was okay with it because we were both just trying to get out and have some fun after a long period of celibacy, but he slowly won me over.

I'm 32, so it's definitely not going to be easy to find someone like him at all again, much less someone without a kid. I'm really trying to picture how this would look long term and think about if I want to do this or if it's time to break things off.

He has her every other week, mom is also local. It seems like an amicable and peaceful coparenting relationship although he doesn't really think highly of her. I haven't met her, or the daughter.

I worry about my own emotional maturity. I imagine being in a situation where I am essentially jealous of a preschooler and the thought is just so ugly I don't even want to put myself in the situation. I have always been ambivalent about having my own children partially due to what I know about my personality and shortcomings, and partially due to family history of cancer and severe mental health issues. But I like kids, I've spent a lot of time as a nanny and way too much time here on DCUM, so I have picked up a lot of knowledge on parenting topics.

I don't know. I just don't have many people to talk to about this and need advice.[/quote]

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