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[quote=Anonymous]What do you say to your daughter who isn't as pretty, smart or athletic?

Well first of all, you tell her she IS beautiful, because every daughter needs to hear that from her mother.  No half-assed "you have a pretty face, or pretty eyes" or whatever, just tell her flat out that you think she is beautiful and always be her cheerleader and champion in that regard, with no backhanded compliments.  My parents always made me feel that way, and even though I know on an intellectual level that it isn't objectively true, it gave me a core of unshakeable confidence emotionally.  I don't believe in false praise, but I think this is one area where parents need to just give unconditional love, because society will send her a million negative messages to counteract that.

And you tell her you think she is smart.  Because there are many different kinds of intelligence, so even if she isn't "school smart" she will have some other gifts, whether it is being musical, or being good with her hands, or being emotionally tuned into others, or whatever.
  
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