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[quote=Anonymous]Does anyone have any stories of mean, pretty, popular girls who teased them who eventually met with failure, disappointment or didn't continue on with their seemingly perfect life?   If you do, please share!

I don't and it disappoints me, still.  My daughter is at an age where she is going to start encountering these scenarios.  I am wondering what advice to give her about girl's and their subtle and not so subtle ways of shoving other weaker girls down on a daily basis.

My mother used to comfort me and tell me it's more important to be kind and "good natured" than cut throat and competitive.  She would say that many of them were probably insecure and unhappy themselves.  In retrospect, I think that this was never true. 
The sad fact of the matter is what went around never came around for these girls.   I think they were pretty,confident, smart and successful and by all accounts, remain this way.  They were mean...but this somehow propelled them in a positive way.

I fantasized at times that many of them would end up fat or divorced at a minimum.  Sadly, all of the snooty bitches at my high school became partners at law firms, doctors, professors, have wealthy husbands, compete in triathlons, etc. ..they continued on the same path to success that they started on.

Yes, I am still traumatized by the way these girls kicked sand in my face.  And no, I was not super nerdy, fat or awkward.  My only crime was and remains insecurity that came from a childhood of abuse and neglect.  It made me vulnerable to their criticism in a way that still stings today, 30 years later.

How do you protect your children from this kind of damage to their self esteem?  What do you say to your daughter who isn't as pretty, smart or athletic?

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