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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your sister is mentally ill. It is not you, it is her. She gains some kind of sense of power and control from excluding you and probably others. Your overtures only provide narcissistic supply and reinforcement. I know someone whose sister declared them dead 20 years ago. It was hard but they finally accepted that you cannot reason with madness. They forgave their sister and the door is open, but they stopped pursuing and try to remember that decision when the pain comes up again. [/quote]

OP here. Thank you for this. I've learned in the last few years about narcissism from YouTube, like Dr. Ramani.

My sister was born with a disability, where she had to wear corrective braces on her legs. She received a lot of "attention" from a young age. She was also the first grandchild. Her legs were fine at around age 4 by the time I was born. She didn't have to walk with the braces or crutches. I don't think my parents prepared her for having another sibling in the house to share time and attention. There are plenty of family photos of my sister in her leg braces as a baby and toddler, and she did look very sweet and it does tug at your heartstrings that she couldn't walk. [/quote]

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