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[quote=Anonymous]It's been more than 10 years since my older sister has spoken to me.

I've made several attempts. I don't live in our hometown. I've traveled back, and she has refused (through other relatives) to see more or speak to me.

Most recently, I was in my hometown this past weekend. I let my brother-in-law, her husband, and our cousins know when I booked the flight a month in advance.

At least now I know, that she really just doesn't want me in her life. I'm so done. I'm not reaching out to her again. I'm not asking her again.

What happened? What difference does it really make? I was born. She didn't like me from the moment I was born. Isn't that ever really a possible reason? Why does there actually have to be any other reason?

My sister has said the usual. That she won't see me or speak to me, unless I give her an apology. For what? LoL.

There's always some reason she wants me to apologize to her. I can list all of the reasons I have for being upset with her, but you would only be getting my side of the story:

1. She's late to our scheduled and planned activities. The last time I tried to plan anything with her was to meet to see the movie [i]The Mummy[/i] in 1999. I bought the tickets. She was more than an hour late. I stopped making plans with her, after a lifetime of this. 
2. She tells people that she's the "evil sister" and I'm the good sister.
3. She threw shoes at me across the hospital room when our mother died about 20 years ago.
4. She and her husband cleared out my mother's belongings, and she shared nothing. 
5. When our father died, she sent me papers from an attorney to sign over everything to her. I did it because I thought she would start speaking to me again. She did not. 
6. She speaks to everyone else in the family, extended cousins, etc., and she tells them a different story about why she doesn't speak to me.

My heart is genuinely broken. On the airplane ride back from my hometown visit, my heart was so heavy, it hurt. I can't cry anymore. I feel like I have no family left. Neither one of us had children. This has affected every area of my life. I'm very susceptible to being bullied by other women in the workplace. I have no women friends in my life.[/quote]

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