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[quote=Anonymous]I have a friend who moved to another state several years ago, and we stay in touch via phone and occasional visits. 
Every time we chat, she seems more and more stressed.

My friend has two ES kids, stays at home, and has a mother's helper after school. Her partner works long hours and can't help much. She seems to have gotten caught up in some kind of mommy hamster wheel.

First, the kids must be in a top private school. Apparently at this school the teachers point out what each kid struggles with and parents are supposed to be involved at home helping work on the kids' growth areas. So she is very hands on in that. She is also involved in all the school activities (class parties, auctions, moms nights out, etc). The kids also do extracurriculars together with their friends from school, so they have busy extracurricular schedules. The kids are very social and so they are always getting invited to parties and playdates, and then they ask her to host parties and playdates. She's very strict about healthy organic food for the kids, everything homemade, etc. Also planning really nice vacations for them. She is also dealing with supporting elderly parents.

I am just worried because she seems stressed and unhappy, and she is regularly complaining about all this invisible workload and how busy she is. She is reluctant to drop anything because "It's for the kids, and I love my kids and want to give them the best chance in life." Also I think because she sees all the other moms in her circle living like this and there's peer pressure.

I've tried telling her that she's an amazing mom, and would still be an amazing mom if she did half of what she does now. She kind of brushes it off.

I don't want to push her or change her, but it's just hard to see someone I care about struggling. Do you think there is any hope? What should I do next time we talk and she starts complaining about being overwhelmed by all of these things she feels she must do? [/quote]

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