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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it is unreasonable for you to dictate how your spouse shows his support for your daughter. Attending pride events is not a requisite for supporting someone who is LGBTQ+.

I have many LGBTQ family members and friends, I am hugely supportive of them and love them just as they are. I never go to Pride because I do not like large events. I also don't go to street festivals for anything else.

My response might be different if your DD was bothered by his reluctance to go or if you indicated he was otherwise not supportive of her coming out.[/quote]

Thank you - it's good to hear this side.  I just hope my daughter doesn't see it as an indication that we are split on supporting her.  [/quote]

Instead of hoping that she doesn't look at it that way, address it. First sit down with your spouse (without your daughter) and express your concerns but don't make it about him going to Pride -- if he doesn't like crowds, he doesn't like crowds. Instead just explain your concerns about making sure your DD feels supported, especially in light of his parents' response to her coming out. Assuming he does in fact support her, maybe discuss some ways he could show that support that make sense for him and for their relationship. If he's not into crowded events, maybe he could read a book on the history of pride or the history of the LGBTQ+ fight for basic rights. You can learn about Stonewall without going to a parade.

Then once you guys are on the same page, communicate that to your daughter so she hears you both say that you support her. I also think it would be valuable to let her know that you both disagree with your IL's choices on the matter, because that's a harsh rejection (even if she wasn't close to them) and it's important to make sure she knows that you guys are behind her even if they are not.[/quote]

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