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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What's your beef with the older sister? She moved out before you can really remember then you've fast forwarded about 40 years, give or take, and how you hate her because she wants the house and is divorced?[/quote]

OP - she’s a complete narcissist and sucks the life out of everyone around her. I helped her out a couple of years ago and then she complained that I could have done more for her. She never had kids and when my sister and I had our kids our older sister sent an email to tell us that our kids shouldn’t expect any gifts from her since she doesn’t have kids we’d give gifts to!! Not that we care about gifts but it’s just how selfish she is. She’s nuts and I don’t want to get sucked into her drama. [/quote]

Isn't it more dramatic to make a show out of excluding her for a simple lunch with your dad? Even your younger sister agrees you're being dramatic. You don't need to diagnose everyone as crazy, narcissist, selfish, etc. It's just lunch. Go or don't go. Your kids won't get any quality time over a brief lunch with an elderly grandparent they've never met anyway. It's a big to do about nothing.[/quote]

OP - I see what you’re saying but it won’t end up like this. When my mother was dying I went to see her. It was a sad and emotional time given the family dynamics. I was sitting with my mother when my older sister stormed into the room and asked why I hadn’t reached out to support her as her husband had just left her. I told her I wasn’t aware and she burst into tears and went on and on about herself. I didn’t get to spend any quiet time with my mother which was the only reason I was there. I’m also sick of my older sister inserting herself into my father’s life to work her own agenda. She comes to DC all the time and I never hear from her. My husband hasn’t even met her once. But if we go there and want my kids to meet their grandfather she will create a problem for the whole group. [/quote]

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