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Parenting -- Special Concerns
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The birth mother chooses the adoptive parents, not the other way around. The adoptive parents can say they are only open to babies who meet certain criteria, but I’ve never known someone whose criteria are “must have same eye and hair color as me.” However, you can choose countries to adopt from or areas of the country or particular agencies that make a certain look more likely (like Russia or Utah for blond hair).[/quote] It's a two-way matching process. [/quote] Yes and no. Most people who adopt through that route wait a long time. While they can technically say no to a match, it usually requires a pretty serious reason. But I don’t think it’s uncommon for a woman looking at prospective families to choose one who reminds her of people she loves, and appearance can be part of that. I will also add that of course a large number of adoptions are kinship adoptions including some wher the family doesn’t share that widely.[/quote]
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