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[quote=Anonymous]I have a problem with your casual disparagement of your husband, and the "yes, my husband can be a jerk". NONE of what you write signals that your husband is wrong. He is pushing you to connect two people. You can say "no, do it yourself if you feel that strongly", and give your husband the contact info. Or you can say "yes, I'll do it".

Now could I infer that your husband might be on the spectrum, and that he doesn't always grasp the subtleties of social communication? Maybe. My husband does the things yours does (and more), and he has high-functioning autism. I have to be very clear with him about what I am willing and unwilling to do for him. He gets grumpy sometimes when he can't get me to communicate for him, but he needs the practice.

Therapists never diagnose - they are not trained for it. Psychologists diagnose. Psychiatrists prescribe. Therapy has never worked for us, because none of the ones we saw were willing to put my husband's diagnoses (ADHD and ASD) front and center.  I had to read up on the subject and come up with my own ways to communicate with my husband. 
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