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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“Sorry to miss you this thanksgiving! As you’re figuring out already, travel with babies and young kids over the holidays is stressful and difficult! I don’t blame you for not wanting to do it, as I’m sure you aren’t trying to blame us for not wanting to do it two years in a row since we made the flight last thanksgiving. Enjoy your baby and maybe you’ll be up for flying down here for Christmas!”[/quote]

Yes, that would be a perfectly reasonable response but the problem is it won’t be accepted.  We are basically bullied that we don’t want a relationship, don’t care about them, are hurtful for something like this, or they will dig up some perceived slight from years ago and say this is just another example of that —- that’s what is exhausting to deal with and it’s like they are incapable of seeing how not reasonable they are. [/quote]

Who cares if it’s accepted? As you said, it’s a perfectly reasonable (albeit passive aggressive) response. You could try to push it if they push back, and say “well hold on, you’re refusing to fly down here because you’ll have a baby even though you expected us to visit when WE had a baby and are now expecting us to do it two years running with a toddler, or else be accused of not wanting a relationship?” But that seems like a lot of effort [/quote]

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