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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just nod and smile and tune out. Ask yourself every time, is this the battle I want to pick?

I agree with him btw. This stuff is over the top [/quote]
I neither agree nor disagree, but DC is excited about the event and wants their dad there. I’m warring between not coddling my child with these “things” and also raising a confident girl who doesn’t have “daddy issues” because her dad never showed up for her, or made fun of everything he did show up for. [/quote]
There’s not actually a war. Your kid is not going to be coddled or spoiled by these little things, whether they are unnecessary or not. And a dad who can’t be a bigger person for the sake of his kid for a couple of days is a dad that’s going to fail in other ways over the years. [/quote]

Agree. And - the only reason Dad likely
feels entitled to whine about this is because he knows (expressly or not) that Mom will show up at the events and be the social-emotional glue for the children. He can whine and pretend it doesn’t matter because he knows Mom will do it.

My guess is this attitude is not limited to school events. It’s very reminiscent of the overall “default parent” argument, where dads claim that everything moms do beyond keeping kids from literally starving is “pointless make work.” The dad who refuses to go to the 5th grade promotion ceremony because it is “dumb” is the same guy who does nothing to plan and prepare for holidays because “who cares, we can order out and use paper plates.”[/quote]

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