Reply to Are posters here really this spineless, or just bidding for attention on DCUM?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Are posters here really this spineless, or just bidding for attention on DCUM?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There have been so many Family Relationships posts lately where the central problem could be solved within about 20 seconds if the OP (or his or her spouse) were to simply open his or her mouth and speak words. As in, “No, a visit on these dates will not work for us, but we’d be glad to host you on X or Y dates.” Or, [b]“We cannot also host Sheila, but if she would like to visit the area, there is a Sheraton about five minutes away.” [/b]Or, “If you mention my daughter’s weight again, I will ask you to leave my home. I’m never discussing her weight with you.”

Are people really this spineless? Do they really prioritize their (seemingly awful) parents over themselves, their children, and their spouses? What gives, doormats of DCUM? Because I’m starting to think that there aren’t actually that many spineless ninnies in the world, who can’t string two sentences together to set basic boundaries. I’m starting to think you just post and exaggerate for attention on DCUM. And I don’t know which scenario is more pathetic. [/quote]

If you tell me you can host me but not one of my family members, none of us will be in attendance. Hope you’re happy. [/quote]

Oh honey. If the “Sheila” in question is a 5yo child, you have a leg to stand on. If it’s a 35yo grown adult child, then you are absolutely pathetic, and I am, indeed, happy if you never visit again. See how that works?

Our house is not a bed and breakfast, and space is limited. I am so glad my family and my ILs know this, and can help plan accordingly. When we host holidays, we are happy to have everyone over for meals, but space is what it is. When my sister and her husband and four kids visit, that’s it: no more room. My parents get that and happily stay at a nearby Microtel, and my brother is kind enough to drive 45 minutes to my house with his boyfriend. There is only so much room, and all the adults recognize this and make do. Same deal when we fly to see my sister: some of us can fit with her, and some of us get hotel rooms. It is how functional, reasonable families operate. Glad I could spell that out for you. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics