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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There have been so many Family Relationships posts lately where the central problem could be solved within about 20 seconds if the OP (or his or her spouse) were to simply open his or her mouth and speak words. As in, “No, a visit on these dates will not work for us, but we’d be glad to host you on X or Y dates.” Or, “We cannot also host Sheila, but if she would like to visit the area, there is a Sheraton about five minutes away.” Or, “If you mention my daughter’s weight again, I will ask you to leave my home. I’m never discussing her weight with you.”

Are people really this spineless? Do they really prioritize their (seemingly awful) parents over themselves, their children, and their spouses? What gives, doormats of DCUM? Because I’m starting to think that there aren’t actually that many spineless ninnies in the world, who can’t string two sentences together to set basic boundaries. I’m starting to think you just post and exaggerate for attention on DCUM. And I don’t know which scenario is more pathetic. [/quote]

All I see is posters who somehow think it’s accepting to invite their MIL but exclude their SIL (it isn’t!).[/quote]

Oh, see, some of us think of grown adults as individuals. Guess what? Sometimes I go on a trip with friends and we don’t also include our spouses, because it is a girls’ trip, and we are all individual people in our own right! This is especially true for healthy, non-co-dependent adults with our own lives, jobs, friends, interests and identities. I can see how you might struggle with that if your family has a bunch of failed-to-launch clingers who still live with Mommy and Daddy.[/quote]

Family is a package deal. [/quote]

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