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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hurt people hurt people is so true. They may appear happy, but have underlying issues they will most likely need to address soon or in the future.[/quote]

Some people are experts at avoiding addressing their issues, and IME queen bees are often among the best. To be a queen bee, you have to have layers and layers of power that enable you to excuse your bad behavior. Usually they have some external source of power, like they are very beautiful or they are very rich (or their family is rich and can buy beauty, or they are beautiful and they can use it to get rich). Then you use that to gather a gaggle of acolytes and supporters, and those people defend you and attack anyone who questions your behavior.

Another interesting thing I've noticed with aging queen bees is that they will also eventually claim to have some kind of mental health issue that they can point to as an excuse for bad behavior. And they may even have these issues! But they use it to justify treating others poorly. You see this a lot with influencers -- as they age and get called on crap more, they'll suddenly be like "it turns out my tendency to lie is due to my ADHD" or "yes, I behaved poorly when I was drinking but now I'm sober" or whatever. And there is even some truth to it, but the thing is that they are using it to avoid taking any responsibility. It's never "wow I'm so sorry for the harm I caused before I was treating my anxiety or sobered up," it's always "everyone please feel sorry for how hard life is for me because I have this condition." It looks like reflection and growth if you squint, but in the end it's the same old thing -- manipulation and justifying bad behavior because of their "specialness."

So yeah, queen bees have issues. Everyone has issues. But sort of a defining feature of a queen bee, or anyone who is willing to manipulate and exploit to stay on top, is that they will never take responsibility for their issues. It's always someone else's fault. They are inherently good and people who don't like them are inherently bad. Admitting otherwise would be to admit that they are just like everyone else, and their entire self-conception is premised on the idea that they are better than everyone else.[/quote]

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