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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Last night my boyfriend of ten months broke up with me out of the blue. I am 30 and he is 31. I am so sad. I thought he might have been the one but he said a bunch of vague stuff like “I’m not all in, and you deserve someone who is.” He’s not ready to say I love you but can tell I am. Etc. [b]I really want him back.[/b] Please don’t be mean I’m so sad.[/quote]

Sorry this happened to you, OP. Please be aware that the bold in your post is a risk you need to acknowledge. Don't pursue him, even if you feel right now that you want him back. We should not always get the things we think we want!

If you are indeed ready to say you love him, and he sees that as a signal he should [i]leave[/i], you shouldn't be with him, now or in the future. I'm NOT saying he's a bad person, OP, so please don't feel defensive of him. I'm saying he's not a person who's going to commit to you, and if you take him back, you're only delaying an inevitable second break-up.

Get out of the house, see your friends and vent and cry, THEN stop venting and crying and join activities or otherwise stay busy with things bigger than yourself and your relationship. You'll gain perspective, the farther away from the break-up you get. But don't go after him and don't be taken in if he comes back on his own. Breaking up when he thinks you're about to get more serious is a huge, unmissable sign. His language might have been vague but the meaning wasn't. [/quote]

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