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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I say this as someone who is also private about a lot of things, including my kids, but you're in for a rough road. You can't control everything. You can establish boundaries, of course. But I think the bigger issue here is why you are so concerned about some of these things. Why don't you want to be photographed pregnant--you don't want any photos for yourself during this time (or to show your child when they are older)?

If you don't care about friends or coworkers knowing, how do you plan to keep THEM from doing something that your families might see (like posting on social media)? You can ask people to refrain from posting on social media or to take something down, but you can't control them. If you are that concerned, you should keep it quiet from everyone until it's no longer possible, including friends and acquaintances. The baby shower is easy enough--just tell anyone who asks that you don't want one. Done.

Lastly, I'll say that you just have to learn to say no and mean it: about the baby shower, about who will be present at the hospital, about when you'll be able to receive visitors or travel after the baby is born. Your family may be upset and may push back, but if you feel that strongly, just stand your ground. This is only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to setting boundaries and making decisions about your child that your family may disagree with. But at the same time, adjusting expectations, accepting that you cannot control everything, keeping things in perspective and knowing which battles to fight is part of being a parent. [/quote]

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