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[quote=Anonymous]My mom is somewhere between mild and moderate Alzheimer’s I think. We are waiting for a neurologist. First. Get ina list for a consult. Tons of different kinds of dementia and understanding it will help you plan. If she saw a neuron for her tbi try them and tell her it’s follow up.

Second: get poa medical directives and as much info as you can. I’ve taken over my moms finances and it’s complicated. She no longer handles anything (turned out she wasn’t handling anything and was scammed out of 200k by predatory contractor during Covid when she lived across the country). She had daily help but  I still didn’t really get it then though although it was weird that she was totally uninvolved with the packing up of her house and selecting what she wanted to keep and ship to her. She was unable to even pack a suitcase and decisions were totally overwhelming. I hired a service that handled it all while I made decisions. In some ways there is a childlike tendency now. She looks to me for basic how to questions of stuff she used to handle effortlessly. Fewer activities also a sign, it’s harder for them to manage things requiring executive function.

Third: talk to her about future. If she can’t care for herself does she want to be in assisted living? Maybe visit a few independent ones. My mom moved into one that also has memory care. It’s expensive (7k mo for assisted living with medication management and memory card only goes up). We don’t have long term care insurance because she stopped paying when her memory was slipping and she was overwhelmed. That was the first obvious sign of things. Now 3 years later it’s short term memory and trouble finding words and no ability to learn newt things. But she doesn’t need memory care and if she still lived independently would be okay with daytime care, driving, cooking. Still I like that there is someone at night if she needs help.

Also know that any transition or hospitalization can be a big set back. Took 5 months for my mom to adjust to assisted living and then she had a brief hospitalization and it took her two months to start getting back into the swing of things. So moving to assisted living is not always easy at first.

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