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[quote=Anonymous]Therapy.

CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) or DBT (dialectal behavioral therapy). CBT is more accessible and easier to do on your own, so I might start there while you look for a therapist but then explore DBT later.

You could get a CBT workbook or even some worksheets online that will specifically address your catastrophizing and walk you through how to recognize when this thought pattern is happing and also how to reassess what you know to put it in perspective. This is a skill that just takes practice, and CBT is a good way to practice it. It's good you recognize already that what you are doing is catastrophizing and that it's a thought process and not just "the truth".

It sounds like your mom likely has this issue as well if she's yelling and getting very upset with you -- probably she is lacking in emotional maturity and that has stunted your own emotional maturity. I recommend the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents to look into this -- it's a pretty common problem and learning to understand how your parents' inability to regulate their own emotions and provide emotional support to you has affected you, can help you address it.

If you get into DBT, there is a a focus on increasing "distress tolerance" which is your ability to regulate emotion even when things go wrong or you encounter upsetting information. So it could help you find calm and react more productively when/if your mom starts yelling at you, or can help you deal with it when you learn that a peer is succeeding in a way that evokes jealousy or feelings of inadequacy (which is normal! most people feel that way sometimes, even people you might think of as very successful).

Thinking about all of this now at your age is really great, by the way. I didn't really start getting into this until my early 30s and my 20s were kind of a $hitshow as a result. Good luck! You are not alone in this.[/quote]

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