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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I both have versions of this dynamic in our family. You are younger than we are. By middle age life has thrown enough crap at us that we have great boundaries and don't make time for BS.

Here is what you do...detach, detach, detach. He made these choices. You make yours. Of course he will try to drag you into the chaos he created by making you responsible for the monster situation he created. You calmly and firmly let him know you will not be your half sister's keeper. If he feels she cannot handle life you can calmly suggest he fund therapy for her, but then let it go if he won't. Not your problem. If he goes bankrupt funding princess then those are natural consequences of his choices. Don't rescue. Protect yourself.

I also would step back some and find your comfort zone. See then less until you find the right amount of time where you can appreciate the interaction and not feel bitter. Spend the extra time you have with people who treat you well.[/quote]

I forgot to also suggest you set a boundary on him complaining about funding your half sister. Tell him that is something for him to discuss with a therapist and you cannot be his sounding board anymore. It is clear he treated you too differently. He made his choice. Not your job to be his support with that.[/quote]

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