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[quote=Anonymous]This is a very tough situation. I hope you can at least get your mother to stand down and/or your father to stand up to her. I suspect she is just completely overwhelmed more than checked out or selfish, but the end result is the same. At the same time, I suggest you monitor your own emotional involvement and investment. Your mother and father are adults with their own dynamics as a couple. You can’t make them change, and I can tell you from experience that no matter how much you move heaven and earth to make the ends move on a solution, they (or one of them) will wait until the last possible moment, when you are fully invested and nearly exhausted, and then “move the ends” to frustrate the plan and create chaos. I think what I’m saying is you can propose solutions and you can even push some, but the less personally invested you are in the final outcome the better, for you and for them. Hope it works out. [/quote]
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