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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your adult child had kids at a point in their life when you didn’t think they were ready - e.g., too young, too unstable, etc. - how have things turned out?

My niece just announced. Unwed. Not in a stable relationship, though the father is currently in her life. (He’s the more stable of the two.) No college and no career.

We’re all trying to be happy for them but also pretty worried.[/quote]

My sister did at 21. It turned out okay. But, there is TONS of family support. Lives at my parents house full time in basement suite and doesn’t pay rent; my parents LOVE having a grandchild and provide a ton of financial support. My parents pay for her schooling. My sister works as a waitress.

You, OP, are not obligated or pressured to provide any ongoing financial support. You are free to do so if you wish. There is little you could say to your niece that is going to change her decision on whether to keep the child. If she’s announced, I assume she’d keeping it. She might be feeling very overwhelmed & scared at three moment. Consider, again, at your own volition, being a listening ear & kind aunt to her at this time. Say congratulations to her even if you don’t actually mean it. Buy her a baby shower gift. That can be the extent of your involvement if you want; no harm no foul. 
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