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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pretty much every year Mother’s Day goes like this for my brother: He invites our mom out to brunch/lunch on Saturday. I’m usually invited with them, rarely we bring our kids and spouses. It’s always a nice afternoon centered around mom and her children. We usually wander to a park after we eat to walk around, sometimes grabbing dessert.

On Sunday in the past he’s watched the kids while his wife visits her mom for brunch. But in the past two years he’s been tagging along because they’ve made it a larger family reunion-type gathering now that there are more grandkids.

(FWIW, I’d say 50/50 on Sunday I will also visit my mom, but it depends on how my week ahead looks. I did visit with her briefly this year.)

My mom can’t get over the fact that my brother spends MD with SIL’s mom and not her. She cries fat tears and will complain about it for weeks. I’m so sick of hearing about it. He has a wife with kids and that’s his main priority, and it should be! I want to speak up on my brother’s behalf and put her in her place, but [b]first I need to know if the way we treat MD sounds fair. [/b]What do you think?

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Here's the issue. Why is how "we" treat MD? 
You and your brother are adults and you can each choose how you want to spend mother's day.

If you're sick of hearing your mom complain about your brother, tell her. "That's none of my business, please talk to Bob directly. Leave me out of it".

Although I would guess she is complaining about you to your brother or someone else. By complaining about your brother, isn't she sending you the same message?

If you don't want to tell her to shut up (in a nice way of course) then just don't reply at all when she complains. Say nothing. Don't acknowledge her complaints. Just ignore. Eventually she will stop.[/quote]

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