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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can't parent your parents. My mother really really really needs to stop driving at 79, but she refuses. She's had a number of close calls, including driving through a fence (mistook the gas for the brake) and sideswiping a car while merging because "he came out of nowhere!"

I finally got her to try Uber and she now uses it for long drives and anytime she plans to drink. But she still drives to the mall, the pharmacy, the bank because "they're right there. It would be silly to get an Uber just to go five minutes."

It's a matter of time. The next close call or accident will be the opening to discuss selling the car. You have to wait till there is a "moment" that makes the conversation relevant and real to them. Then you can only say your peace. They're adults.[/quote]

PP. I agree with the "they're adults" except when it comes to driving. If your mom kills someone and you did nothing to try to stop her from driving, you are morally complicit.

I suggest you contact her state's DMV and find oud how you can report an unsafe elderly driver. And tell your mom if she kills someone even if she doesn't go to jail she will get sued and possibly lose her house and retirement fund. That was what finally got my mom's attention when she was letting my dad with Alzheimer's drive. I was disgusted that it took the possibility of a financial loss to get her to care that he might kill someone, but it worked. (I had started filling out the forms to report him to the DMV but that was not going to be a quick fix).[/quote]

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