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[quote=Anonymous]I’m seeking a separation/divorce from my husband. He’s a recovering alcoholic (18m sober, attends AA a couple times a month, should go more) and has other impulse control issues (gambling).

We have 2 kids (7 and 4) and he has shown bad judgement at least 3 times that I know of in the last 6 months while solo parenting in evenings I had social or work plans.

(1) Taking pills after the kids went to bed that would cloud his judgement and make him unable to respond to an emergency (they often wake up or come out of their room after bedtime)
(2) Leaving them alone in a car for ~20m to run an errand (winter so overheating wasn’t an issue but still not OK)
(3) I just learned tonight from one of my kids that DH will sometimes leave them alone for 20-30m to go pick up takeout or get coffee

I assume he’ll try to go for 50/50 joint custody. What custody arrangement seems reasonable or appropriate given his poor judgement? I do want them to have a relationship with him but I don’t trust his parenting, especially for extended periods of time. We’ve already committed to trying mediation. How likely is that to succeed if I seek something other than 50/50?
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