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[quote=Anonymous]I feel like I have been searching for purpose a lot lately and feeling dissatisfied with several areas of my life.  I am a married mom in my mid 40s, and maybe I am having a midlife crisis.  I've been married 20 years, and my marriage is okay but not great.  My spouse is hardworking, helpful around the house, and a great dad, but we don't seem to have much in common anymore or that much to talk about and there is very little affection between us.

We have one tween son (couldn't have more due to infertility) who prefers to do his own thing or hang out with dad and mainly ignores me, so that is definitely hurtful.  I try to come up with fun things for us to do together based on his interests but he is never interested and is happiest playing video games or watching TV.  I miss when he was little and wanted me around and wanted to do things together.  I am very disappointed with the other relationships in my life including my parents, extended family and friends, and I think this is a big part of where my overall life dissatisfaction comes from--I do not have warm, supportive, loving family and friend relationships unfortunately.  I have tried to make mom friends, join mom groups, volunteer at my son's school but I never really was able to make great friendships or build a community for us.

I work full-time and my job is awesome, I love every minute of it but I work longer hours than I need to because it's one of the few things that brings me so much happiness and where I feel appreciated and valued.  I also have an interesting hobby that I spend a lot of time on that brings me a lot of meaning and joy.  I have pets as well.  I also have other hobbies and interests, and I volunteer a lot in the community.

I feel chronically lonely and wish I had more friends (and have tried to make more friends but everyone is too busy to meet up most of the time).  The few friends I do have only want to meet up 2-3 times a year which is not enough for me, so I end up feeling really dissatisfied with those relationships.  We have no local family and our family relationships are polite but distant.

I find myself searching for purpose a lot and wondering why I feel dissatisfied so much.[/quote]

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