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[quote=Anonymous]DD11 is in her 3rd year of competitive dance. She has not shown any dedication, commitment, or any true interest/love in dance for a long time. She does not practice any of her routines at home, does not work on her solo, does not practice flips, splits, etc. (she cannot do splits, flips, etc. so it would make sense to practice so she can master it). She treats dance like a social event - is only concerned about what hotels her friends are staying in, wanting to go out to eat with friends, etc.

DH and I have shared our concerns with DD and asked her to practice more at home and show us that she is committed to dance. She has not done it and makes excuses for why she can't (her mat at home is too small, she can't use YouTube, etc...all of which are a bunch of excuses. She has recordings of her routines to practice to, she has a 14' trampoline where she could practice things if she wanted to, etc.). She says she likes dance but has not shown it.

We've decided that she will not return to competitive dance next year. It is entirely too expensive and time consuming if she is not committed. We are now contemplating what to do for the rest of this year. We still have nationals competition in a few months, which will cost us another $3-4K. Do we pull her out now and not attend nationals? If we do that, I'd feel bad that the team would have to reconfigure choreography without her in the routines. We also have recital coming up, but we had a trip already planned and paid for before they announced the date, so she will not attend that and I assume they'll have to reconfigure routines for the recital anyway. We committed at the beginning of this season to see it through, so I feel like we should go ahead and attend nationals. I also don't want DD to think she can just abruptly stop something just because she doesn't want to do it - if you make a commitment, see it through. DH just wants to save the money and cut the cord now. WWYD?[/quote]

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