Reply to How do you raise girls who are confident about their looks?

Forum Index » General Parenting Discussion

Reply to "How do you raise girls who are confident about their looks?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't talk about calories, weight, etc around your kids. Promote a healthy body for health, not weight or appearance.  Don't make comments about others bodies, appearance, clothes, etc even if its nice. The negative comments are for obvious reasons but the positive one can have negative impacts too.  My cousin is absolutely gorgeous by any definition.  You cant help but negatively compare yourself to her when everyone else compliments her

And I know this is controversial, but its ok to tell your kid they are pretty, handsome, whatever. It is a self esteem boost to have someone call you that. Yes, highlight all the areas that are great about them that aren't their appearance, but I still think its important to hear you're pretty. [/quote]

A lot of this. We just don’t talk about physical appearance of other people. When it comes up, I just say something like “yes, she/he does look nice, but are they funny, kind, smart, etc.” I do tell me kid she looks great and is pretty. But she also knows it is at what is actually important to her.

I did think it was interesting what another person said about not being with all rich, white girls. My daughter goes to a Spanish immersion school and most of her friends are not white— I wonder if that has helped.

Two things that surprised me. When she was about nine, my dad commented about going on a diet. My daughter literally didn’t know what he meant. She said to me “what did granddaddy mean? Your diet is just what you eat.” I was quite happy we made it to fourth grade without her knowing what a diet was.

Then, in fifth grade she asked me “why is it bad to be overweight and why is losing weight stressful?” Her good friend has confided that she was trying to lose weight and that it was really hard and stressful. So, this was really the first time at age 10, someone she knew was bringing this up. Again, I was glad we made it this long.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics