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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm happily marrired but DH has a demanding job, 70 hour weeks. No kids yet.  We're newish to the area--moved here 3 years ago from Orgeon.  No family or support networks here.  I'm an only child and my parents live in California, so I've always felt lonely here, especially because I only see my parents once a year.  DH's family is cold and disinterested, and they live in Miami.  When DH isn't around or on a business trip, I feel completely and utterly alone.  I am a social person, and enjoy being around people, and I don't like being alone because it makes me feel incredibly lonely.  I don't have any sense of belonging here.  I have made new 2 friends here, but they're not the kind of friends I could count on.  I work fill-time but don't feel a sense of belonging at work.  I don't feel that DH and I belong here or anywhere, we can't seem to find our social niche.  It's a very depressing feeling.  Just started seeing a therapist but not sure this issue is something I can ever really resolve without making more new friends who would be like a surogate family here.  Everyone is wrapped up in their own lives and has no time for me, and no one reciprocates when I reach out to invite people to lunch or to do an activity.  Does anyone else feel this way?  I find it very hard to cope with these feelings of extreme loneliness and isolation.[/quote]

I think you need to think about what would make you happy, what you really need to feel connected.  And, then, actively seek it out.  Do you want to be here?  How old are you?  (I guess that is an important question.)  In my 30s, I never had any problem finding people to hang out with.  I could see it being a bit trickier if you are in your 40s, without kids (b/c most people in your age range will have kids, and therefore different interests).  Where you live is also an issue.  If you are out in the 'burbs, that will be tougher.  But, in DC there are SO MANY groups and organizations and activities . . . so back to my original point, you need to decide what it is you want.  Three new friends to see three times a week?  Or?   I think  you can find it, you just need to be a bit more goal oriented.[/quote]

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