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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Marriage counseling if he will.

Otherwise, yes, stay.  Until her second year of college.  [/quote]

You’re wrong. It’s actually better to divorce sooner rather than later, if you know you’re going to do it. When you wait to divorce until your kid is 18+, they feel like their childhood was a lie & that the rug is being pulled out from under them. Rip off the band aid[/quote]

This depends on the kid and the situation and is not a reason to divorce without very, very pressing reasons. Your point is true - divorce hurts children no matter when it happens. It is impactful no matter when you do it there is no getting out of that. But giving your marriage a chance to get through the more intense child rearing years and come out on the other side, which many do is likely worth it in a marriage where there are a lot of good things going - fun vacations, fun when out with friends, fun family outings together every weekend. this is not something to blow up your child's entire life for. It sounds like the day to day is a bit of drudgery but man, that is parenting/life. The daily can have a lot of drudgery.

And I also don't have the same interests as my husband really. He likes to learn about history and watch basketball. Not my thing. He spends his evenings mostly doing things on his own and me as well. Our partnership is about way more than our shared interest. It is a life, it is children. Marriage and partnership is so much bigger. It sounds like finding that feeling of partnership and deep respect might be missing right now but seems like there is a lot of opportunity and strengths to find it in counseling. And time and time again people who have made it the long haul will say these years with young children are some of the toughest on a marriage. I think in a marriage as described, it is worth trying.[/quote]

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