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[quote=Anonymous]Along with encouraging her to expand her circle I would also talk to her about what makes a good friend (and move away from "best friend" labels). So in the example of the talent show explain to her that a good friend might not want to participate but would still want to support you by coming and watching or celebrating afterwards.

With the birthday party talk to your daughter about her own behavior. She agreed to attend the birthday party of a friend and spent the whole time in a corner with one guest. Those types of actions are not indicative of being a good friend to the birthday girl.

Your daughter has to start taking ownership of the role she's taking in continuing this dynamic so help her come up with what to say to pushback on her best friend when she tries to pull her way or discourage her from doing something she's excited to do.

I also think organizing some more 1:1 playdates/activities with other friends will help especially if you choose activities that she's excited about but her best friend isn't.

These dynamics are only going to get more complicated through middle school so helping her find tools to navigate it now while you are still involved and can influence things will serve her well when she will have to deal with things independently. [/quote]

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