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[quote=Anonymous]I'm 44 and my life is ostensibly pretty good, and also the result of conscious choices I've made. But for about the last 6 months, I have just felt like I'm in some kind of crisis:

- Feel like I squandered my education and potential
- Worried I can't outrun genetics and a bad childhood and that I lost the chance to be the person I want before I even started
- Feel so out of step with peers, like they all followed these same career trajectories and family choices and I am a weird outlier
- Feel my friendships won't survive disparities in finances and background

I've been in therapy (would like to do it again, but have been struggling a bit to find a good fit -- I've had enough mediocre therapists in my life to feel like at this stage I want someone who is a really good fit for me), I'm a really introspective person, I have a good history of making concrete changes to improve my life when I feel like I need to. But lately there's this voice in my head saying things like "you're too old for that" or "just accept this is how life is going to be." A lot of the stuff I've done in the past to get through tough times, usually involving stepping out of my comfort zone, don't feel possible right now because I'm a parent, I don't have the same amount of free time, and I feel pressed by the financial stresses of saving for retirement, saving for college, and also trying to provide a good life for my kid right now.

I just have this feeling like it's too late, or like I need to make some drastic change if I want to change the course of things. How do I work my way out of this?[/quote]

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