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[quote=Anonymous]I’m struggling with guilt. My Mom has health issues that are really starting to decline the quality of her life. She also developed serious mental health issues over the past 7 months that she refuses to get treatment for (paranoid delusions and auditory hallucinations). It puts a lot of pressure and responsibility on my Dad. They don’t live nearby so I can’t help in a meaningful way. I work full time and have 2 elementary age kids. My issue is that I just don’t have a close relationship with my Mom. I want to see her get better but I feel indifferent towards her and her health decline which makes me feel like an awful person. I’m more concerned about my Dad and what this is doing to him. I struggle to articulate why I feel so indifferent towards her. She is emotionally immature, low self esteem, and doesn’t know how to have close relationships with anyone. Our lives are completely different and we barely have anything to talk about. She has always been self absorbed and in constant need of validation. I have 3 siblings and we all feel similar towards her. I’m not even sure what I’m asking. Am I going to have horrible regret later? Is it normal to feel so indifferent about your own mother? Part of me just has to detach from her medical issues because she would rather complain about her ailments rather than make any changes in her lifestyle that might improve her health. Trying to help her is futile. I feel so bad for my Dad that he has to deal with this but am struggling with how to help and my indifference towards it all. Does that make sense? Any words of wisdom from others that have had complex relationships with a parent? [/quote]

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