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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's not over-protective - she wants the best parts of parenting for herself! We should normalize this.

Tell your friend that she's not looking for a nanny - she's looking for a housekeeper or maid. I mean this in the best way, I was very similar to her (worked from home, wanted someone to "mind" the babies and then I took them on the fun/enriching things - playdates, parks, shops). It's not only doable but the norm overseas where we live, where nannies don't do things like drive kids around. I always had a warm, older housekeeper who hung out with the baby, i.e. put her in the bouncer and be chatty with her while tidying the house, then hand baby to me at 4 PM to go to park before dinner/bath/bed, if I was up for it.

Others will comment that she is unreasonable or I am insane but I got everything you describe above for 3 kids, and no breaks in either of us working. I would personally not search for a nanny, based on what I hear about US nannies. They seem to take over the parenting while parents cook and clean in the background, it makes no sense to me.[/quote]

They don't need her to cook or clean. They have a great cleaning service.

It's more that yes my friend is home and not working but needs ample rest. The nanny would take over care but within the house. There wouldn't be free reign for outings and socializing ( both nanny and baby) and bigger things like baths, solids, classes, Dr visits my friend would take larlo on. The nanny would only need to do housekeeping things that pertain to the baby.

I thought most nannies already do baby's laundry and dishes, keep their nursery tidy.....but perhaps it's too much on top of normal interaction with larlo. She does nap 3x a day. So there should be time plus a break.

My friend has feedback from potential nannies that they won't work with someone who is micromanaging and home all day. But really it's just she wants control over baby's day and isn't putting her in daycare, she doesn't believe in socializing young infants. But that leads to nanny not feeling like she can go out herself.

Thanks for you input. I'll pass along it's nice to know others feel the same. [/quote]

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