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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I'd hire a temp/emergency nanny.

She's saying she needs help if you're gone. She probably does-she works full time including some weekends. Hire some help and go see your mom!

Being annoyed at the wife isn't going to help. You and wife both have your hands full-get the help and go see your mom, knowing that your wife is ok at home with dc with help. I think the stress of your mom's illness is coloring your response to your wife.

I'm sorry about your mom. [/quote]

Yes, this. You guys need more help. Instead of fighting her try to make the situation work. You want to go and visit your parents. She doesn’t want to be away from a toddler for a long stretch. Honestly, as a working mom, I understand her perspective. The child is probably still at an age where they are primarily bonded to her, especially if nursing is involved. For a toddler with no theory of mind it can disrupt the attachment bond to be away from a parent for so long.

I say go with the family for a week, and find help so you can take another week there (either consecutively or not). There is definitely help out there for these situations and you should be prepared to pay a premium since it’s short term and not a daily expense.

Most importantly — do not turn this into you vs your wife. Both of you have valid perspectives. She is trying to keep herself afloat during a stressful time.[/quote]

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