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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my kid was a baby/toddler I was pretty rigid about having her fall asleep on her own and stay in her own bed.  She was generally fine with this, with the exception of 1 or 2 nights/month when she would call for me after a nightmare (and I would go to her room to comfort her for about 5 minutes before heading back to my own bed).  Fast forward to September of this year and we moved to a new house where her bedroom is a bit further from ours (she went from being right across the hall to down a hall).  She was scared of her room and generally anxious about the move, so I started staying in her room while she fell asleep—I would read to her and then stay in her bed and read on my kindle while she drifted off.  Now she’s used to our new home, but she still always wants me to stay in her room as she falls asleep.  I can’t decide what to do. She’s very resistant to falling asleep without me and I don’t know if I should push her, create a reward chart, etc.

[b]On the one hand, she’s only a little kid for a short time[/b] and it’s really not a big deal for me to stay in her room to offer comfort.  I know this time will fly by and soon she won’t want me around.  Part of me wants to cherish the snuggle time for as long as it lasts.  On the other hand, I end up going to bed later because after she falls asleep, I still have some stuff to do.  Plus, I occasionally fall asleep in her room and then I sleep poorly until I get up and move to my own room.  My partner often works at night so he doesn’t really care how I manage this (ie. He’s not waiting for me).

Does anyone else keep their 6.5 year old 1st grader company while she/he falls asleep?  Are you glad you do it?  I’m leaning towards accommodating her since childhood is so short….but not sure if I’m making a mistake.  [/quote]

This is a slippery slope. I would not do this unless there was some extreme trauma (family death, etc.) my child was healing from. It creates bad habits and any bad sleep boundary habits are going to mess with your marriage.[/quote]

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