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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Drop the rope, OP. Just drop it. [quote]

Good advice, will try harder to follow. I have been low contact for so long that I just don't have the skill set for this level of chaos. My mom should have enough money to live on but people are right that there should be someone as an alert on accounts to avoid problems as an example. It's hard to see simple things not done and wait for the next shoe to drop that was easily avoided. She has a lot of people in and out, refuses to use her safe, instead leaving her checkbook out, etc. and the neighbors call or text concern. And if she runs out of money because she was scammed that will be a whole different problem. I overestimated my ability to apply reasonable to a situation where my mom thrives on chaos and on denigrating me and offers of help are seen as an insult.

I have a family and stressful job and keep trying to plan ways out of a situation where there is no role for me. I think that has echoes of the past and that has also kept me stuck, along with grief. It's really taking a toll, headaches, trouble sleeping, etc. in the past week.

How might some contact look with dropping rope of responsibility? Anyone have a script for me to try? If I call and there is some crisis, instead of trying to rescue or plan, how do I respond? I have a hard time thinking in the moment. Thanks in advance for any ideas. [/quote]

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