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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think you handled it very gracefully.  If I was in that situation I would probably end up putting my foot in my mouth. But hopefully I'd say something along the lines of how I can empathize b/c it took me years of trying and then lots of technology before getting pregnant, and I did have to reconcile with myself many times that I may never have kids. But honestly, I would more likely just put my foot in my mouth. [/quote]

I have said this but it didn't go well. The fact is, despite what I went through I now have children and she still doesnt. When women especially are in this kind of pain they can feel misunderstood and patronized if the comparison to their pain doesn't match...if that makes sense? Its really tough. I know when I was struggling with infertility, nothing anyone said was "right"

The sympathetic look and nod is probably best. And maybe "I really hope things do work out for you"

[b]Oh and please don't ever say "I'll be praying for you" ugh[/b][/quote]

Add to the do not say list:  "Some days my kids drive me crazy and I wish I were in your shoes."  Comments like that are totally insensitive to the struggles of infertility. [/quote]

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