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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you can kindly explain that you and your DH are married and have a primary relationship that was there before her and will be there after her and that's normal and healthy.  Sometimes she'll be left out.

Don't give her the expectation that you are in a three-way relationship of equals.  [/quote]
This is interesting. One of the things she mentioned is that she’s sad when she hears us in the living room laughing and then we stop when she comes out to join in (probably after something suggestive, etc  :wink: I can’t recall a single time we wouldn’t have invited her to join in on something funny. She has a precocious sense of humor, so she’s always up for a laugh.)[/quote]

I am saying this kindly so hopefully you receive it as such.  I am very good friends with an only-child family that fell into this dynamic.  It is okay for you and your husband to have private moments and things that are only shared between the two of you.  You also don't need to hide this from your daughter.  You're nor her friend, she is not a third adult in your home, and it's ok and actually necessary for you to maintain a relationship with your husband that's just for the two of you.  Once you believe that for yourself, I think you can explain it to her in the spirit it's intended.  There are times when mom and dad are talking or hanging out and please excuse yourself or wait a second until we finish up is 100 percent normal.[/quote]

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