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[quote=Anonymous]If you have an adult sibling who is a failure to launch, do you maintain a normal relationship with them and your parents?  Mine is an extreme example - 41 yo brother has NEVER had a job despite multiple advanced degrees.  Lives in a sfh by himself, travels, floats from cafe to cafe.  Discussing going to Europe to "work" even though he couldn't even legally work there.  My parents are in total denial and keep insisting he is on the cusp of being self reliant, launching his career, etc.  It's a joke.  He has probably received at least $50k of assistance every year of his life since he finished college - has premium health insurance, etc.   Whenever I make a comment to my parents, I'm told I'm vindictive and only care about money.  It is hard not to be snide.  My brother was recently in a very bad car accident that was def the fault of the other driver, who is uninsured.  My mom was saying what a "loser" the other person is because he is 50 and has no job or insurance.  I pointed out that the only difference between the driver and my brother was parents paying the insurance.  She hung up on me and emailed later saying she is so disappointed in me for causing her pain, and that I should embrace a better relationship with my brother.

I just can't do that.  I'm disgusted, and honestly am not sure I can maintain a real relationship with any of them.  I've been working since I was 21.  I'm tired.  I don't want to pretend this is normal or happy.

How have your relationships with your parents/sibling evolved if your sibling is getting substantial sums of money (and you are not) from your parents?[/quote]

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