Reply to My dad is planning to live another 20 years

Forum Index » Eldercare

Reply to "My dad is planning to live another 20 years"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I think it's totally normal to have all sorts of feelings here, OP. You are carrying a mental load for your father. What happens if you drop a little bit of it? Does everything fall apart for him? Is he experiencing some cognitive issues? From your description of him, it's hard to imagine he's only as responsible as a teenager. Maybe you can let him sink or swim a bit more.

I lost my dad suddenly in his mid 60s and so of course, I'd give anything to have him at 77 saying he was going to live another 20 years. My mom is 80 and says she thinks living too long doesn't sound like fun. She'll make comments about how her doctor said that at a certain age she might not want to treat a recurrence of cancer, and she's all, "Yup." She recently updated her files so we'll know what to do when she's gone. It's a little weird to talk so frankly about her life ending, and so I understand why some people just pretend it's not a thing.

I feel you on the mental load. I'm the only local child so it's on me to fix her computer or take her to buy new appliances or drive her to her appointments. Thankfully I'm a SAHM so I have the time, but it's still tiring to get an unexpected ask added to my day. But I know it can all change in an instant, so I try to enjoy all the time I get to spend with her. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics