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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS goes to a small private school where most/all families are doing fine financially and the kids likely get plenty of toys and gifts from parents and extended family on their bdays.  In his kindergarten class roughly half to 2/3 the kids have said no presents on their bday invites and the other portion didn't say that.

I always thought I'd be a no gifts parent, the last thing I want in my house is more toys that aren't even necessarily things he wants or need, but he's really into the idea of getting presents from his friends.  He's helped pick out what to get the kids that have had gifts and has pondered what friends will pick for him.  I haven't yet said either way whether he'll have gifts at his bday party, for the other kids I've explained that some parents feel their kids already have so much stuff that they're just excited to have the friends come for the party.

Is it viewed negatively now if you don't say no gifts?  I was surprised by the first couple families that didn't, but that could just be a me-bias because[b] I couldn't imagine wanting a bunch more junk and hadn't yet experienced a kid that was thinking about getting presents from friends at their party[/b].[/quote]

You're not the one who has to want it -- the presents are for your kids, not YOU. You're clearly already a "no-gifts" person, so why pretend with this post, asking a fake question?

Your kids sound like a lot of fun, too -- not wanting gifts at their birthday party. No kid is "just excited to have their friends come over" unless they're shut-ins the rest of the year. Do your kids get out of the house? At all?

Of course they'd be excited to have presents. They're not dead inside, like middle aged curmudgeons who only think about what a hassle it is FOR THEM if their kids get gifts. How sad for your kids.

Stop forcing kids to be middle aged duds. Let them be kids, excited about getting presents. Then deal with cleaning up after the party, where to put the stuff, what to keep, what to give away, writing a thank you not, and all the REAL reasons you don't want to deal with gifts at your kids' party: lazy selfish parenting.[/quote]

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