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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, antoher way of looking at this - and I don't recommend it - is what are the level of interventions you are considering? If "none," which I suspect from your post, the decision may already be made for you.
In other words, it may not be a choice.[/quote]

That’s right…no interventions. I figured we could try for 3-6 months and call it quits. And yet I know quitting would be hard! [/quote]

I don't think it would be as hard as you think, if you are already committed to no interventions. I think right now there's this unknown out there -- what if I could still get pregnant with a healthy pregnancy? Am I missing out on that? But if you try for 6 months and don't get pregnant, I think that might be the closure you need. You'll have tried and it didn't happen, and you have a healthy kid you love and can commit to that. No more unknowns.

Also, sounds like you have a child who is 2-4 years old. Another piece of this is that you are thinking about it at a snapshot in time, and your kid is going to change a ton in the next year. I had a baby in my late 30s as well, and part of me wanted to have another one until my child hit about 3.5/4. It was a very intense parenting time in our family and even with just one kid, it was hard. I was exhausted. I had no desire to be pregnant or to have another kid while we were going through that. And when it finally ended and things got smoother as my kid matured, I realized how much I appreciated having a small family, and also how thrilled I was to be entering a new stage with an elementary school-age kid who was more independent, and to have a different dynamic in our house. And the idea of going back and doing baby/toddler/preschooler again didn't sound so appealing. So now I can honestly say that I have no regrets and am very happy with my only, even though at one point I felt like you did, like "this is my last chance, should I go for it?" I didn't and I'm glad I didn't and it worked out.

It will work out for you to. If you feel you need to give it one more try, do it. But whatever happens, I do think you will reach peace on the issue. Again, you have one kid you love already. Maybe you wind up with two and that's perfect, and maybe you wind up with one and that's perfect. Life has a way of sorting itself out.[/quote]

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