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[quote=Anonymous]Life has basically sucked the past few months.

My mil died in Dec, after us being by her bedside for a month. Hospice was arduous. We are now left with the task of dealing with her belongings, 40 years of hoarding, and selling her condo. The job falls to us because the other siblings are either estranged or living overseas. MIL lived 4 hrs away from us so it requires weekend trips to go through her things. She has mixed financially valuable items with extremely sentimental items with useless crap. So someone who knew her and loved her has to be the one sorting. Add to that just managing her paperwork, bills, taxes, etc.

Meanwhile, my own parents are fastly deteriorating. They are local so there's a lot of elder care logistics I've been doing - getting CNAs, setting up drug + food delivery, occasionally going to doctor appointments, and physically checking in a few times a week. I have a sibling but he's got some of his own personal issues (special needs kid) that makes him less available for this type of work.

Finally, I work full time and have 2 kids (elem, middle) who are lovely sunny beings but naturally have a lot of their own needs that I need to tend to (supporting practice of extracurriculars+sports, hw help, increasingly wanting to host play dates or "hang outs" with friends). Right now their bond with me is good so I feel it's important for me to continue with these things.

Anyway, lately I am just so so tired. I don't see an end in sight to my work. I am starting to wonder if my whole life will just be taking care of other people until they die, and then I will die. Or more that I will be spending so much of my good years with the kids taking care of others. I'd like a vacation but I blew too many of my vacation days on appts for kids things or parents things.

Sorry I know a lot of you go thru this too, especially in mid-age. I am in my mid 40s. How do you not feel hopeless? I am really almost starting to feel panicky because my "list" is huge. I am slowly working thru it all but it just feels so overwhelming and things I have done easily (taxes for example) now feels daunting.

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