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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother had me at 43 in the early 80s; she still says I kept her young.

I read something recently if it helps you decide - [b]you will never regret the kids you have, but you will always regret the kids you don't have[/b].  Follow your gut, but something tells me if you are posting here then your gut says you want another. [/quote]

This is definitely not true. There are absolutely women who regret the kids they had (there is just literally no place they can express that feeling without being indicted as a terrible human being), and lots of us don't regret the kids we didn't have. Do you really think every mother wishes she'd had more kids? That's bananas.

I chose to stop at one kid for financial and mental health reasons and while I do sometimes get "baby fever" and feel a bit sad I'll never have another baby, I have zero regrets about my choice, which was definitely the right one for me and my family. Sure, if I'd had another we would have made it work. But I also think part of me would always have been a little mad at myself for having more kids because of what it would have cost us (not just financially -- I had bad PPD with my first experience and going through that again with two kids sounds like a bad experience for everyone).

Glad your mom was happy with her decision.[/quote]

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