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[quote=Anonymous]You cannot push things on siblings. All you can do is figure out your own boundaries. He needs more of a life than you all. Sure visit and call, but no need to make a schedule and cater. The bar will likely keep rising and he will want more. It's not about how much you do and if you do just the right amount he will be happy. I learned to hard way. He is unhappy. He doesn't like this stage of life. A schedule is a temporary solution. He needs a life. He needs friends. He could live to be over 100 and I guarantee you within a few months that schedule of calls will not satisfy and eventually resentment will set in.

Do what you can, but don't measure the worth based on how happy he is. Help him find other outlets. He will push back, Doesn't matter.

When your kids were 2, I bet at least one of them hemmed and hawed about going off to preschool or daycare and wanted to cling to you. Most who do that eventually adjust and a world opens up and you have more to give because you aren't stuck at the hip. Help him find a world to make him happy. You and your siblings cannot be the only part of his world.[/quote]

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