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[quote=Anonymous]Sister is 44F. (FWIW we are very close in age).  Practically went to high school, college, and even lived together after for a few years.  She was always the pretty, fun, outgoing one.  Smart, graduated top of her class, master’s degree, big 4 job.  Had boyfriends/friends/normal relationships growing up.  Was fit and active.

Sometime in adulthood, casual drinking turned into alcohol and some drug abuse.  After years of fighting, finally got sober in late 30’s.  Has taken a variety of SSRI’s over time and now Xanax as far as I understand.  Eventually fired from job for poor performance, didn’t work for two years or so, then had to sell house and move in with parents.

Now has lived with parents for around two years, makes excuses for any poor behavior or decisions, has a woe is me/victim attitude anytime something goes wrong in her life, seems to get a kick out of upsetting 70+ year old parents (including my mother who is in poor health), argumentative about any topic with everyone (for example, something as mundane as whether cats know/like their owners), on trips with family spends half her day in bed vaping and watching tv on iPhone, her space in parents’ home is filthy/smelly/clothes and stuff everywhere on the ground, etc. (and it was like this when she lived in her own place so it is not a lack of space issue), apparently does have a job making 180k according to her. . . .

What is this behavior/physiological condition?  Originally I wondered if there was some bipolar or other psychiatric condition, but I don’t think it is.  Probably some depression.  She definitely has some anxiety, but that can’t be the only thing going on.

What is the solution?  Tough love?  I have already made the mistake of trying to protect my parents, but have come to the conclusion it’s not up to me to set boundaries for my parents.  She hasn’t done anything to me to want to cut her off, but after years of trying to help her, I’m tired of losing sleep about her.   [/quote]

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